Alan Montecillo logged on to Ok Cupid and started filling out his profile.
He wrote down his height (6 feet), listed his interests (podcasts, basketball, reading) and included photos of himself outdoors.
Statistically, Asian men rank lowest compared to other men when it comes to receiving matches and messages from women on dating sites.
While there are different theories for the reasoning, the clients I work with all agree with the premise of not being able to fit the hyper-masculine culture perpetuated by Western society.
But when Montecillo reached the section that asked for his ethnicity, he hesitated.
Montecillo, whose parents are Filipino, was born in New York and spent 13 years living in Hong Kong.
Montecillo ended up including his ethnicity on his profile, but he removed it after an exhausting period where he received a response about once in every eight or nine messages. you can’t help but wonder sometimes.” [Black women face prejudice every day.If you’re not a white guy, then your opinion on how people respond to “white guys” can only be that of a spectator.To make an analogy, imagine you heard people say over and over, “Waitresses at Denny’s restaurants hate black guys.” Now ask yourself whose opinion on this would matter: An individual waitress who works at one Denny’s, a random customer who’s gone to Denny’s a few times, or a black guy who’s gone to Denny’s twice a day everyday for three years straight in every state in the entire country?Women who have no Asian male friends or interactions are limited to societal and media portrayal of Asian men which isn’t flattering.Remember, it was just January of this year when comedian Steve Harvey joked about how no one would want to date Asian men.
It would be like a black guy being offended by the “big penis” stereotype, right?