My voice is deep, which apparently makes me less desirable to men.My eye color isn’t interesting, and my hair is always feral.My girlfriend and I met on e Harmony, so I’ll be the first to acknowledge that online dating can absolutely be a worthwhile experience. I dabbled with it for almost , and prior to Melissa, the most memorable thing I came away with was a tome’s worth of craptacular dating stories.(Though, in that respect, I guess I do have e Harmony and Match to thank for my writing career.) Armed with years of slow-churned cynicism, I took to the internet to see if others shared my experiences.A few years ago, OKCupid calculated that 96.25% of e Harmony’s profiles are inactive, using numbers provided by e Harmony themselves.Match was only marginally better, coming in at 93.1% inactive.
For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months: • The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards).From grade-school dances in gyms to corporate happy hours, I’ve been “swiped left” on more than my fair share.“Online dating is just awkward,” my cute co-worker scrunches her nose.As history has it, when people defected from My Space to Facebook, that online community became a dust town.Dating sites like Ok Cupid and Plenty of Fish (POF) became more popular.
“I get that they’re not looking for love, but aren’t they trying to hook up? ”As it turns out, my good-looking friends aren’t completely out of touch.