“Lately, in order to want to sleep with someone, I actually have to them as a person.” He said this as if it were a mind-blowing revelation.
I told him that, at 31, the realization was probably a bit overdue, but I knew what he meant: As one gets older, it becomes harder and harder to be attracted to someone simply because of the way they look.
Why does intelligence appear to enhance a man’s dating and marriage prospects while diminishing a woman’s prospects?
It’s an explosive question for a number of reasons.
If you are smart, single and dating, I’m pretty sure this is the man you want to meet: the confident, interesting guy who knows what he wants and how to get it.
They do, and it’s especially true of more mature men in their 40s, 50s and beyond.
The study, carried out by researchers the University of Buffalo, California Lutheran University and University of Texas, Austin, posits that men’s attraction to certain traits in women can be directly affected by how realistic a romantic prospect their potential lover is.
There’s obviously a missing category here: men on the left hand side of the intelligence bell-curve.
The disconnect doesn’t just emerge from Lapin’s preferences—it’s inherent in the data.
The other day, at a Fashion Week party, my friend Alan and I stood against a wall, scanning the room for hot people, as you do.
“It’s weird,” he said contemplatively, staring into a sea of models.
“[Men faced in this real life scenario] distanced themselves more from her, tended to rate her as less attractive, and showed less desire to exchange contact information or plan a date with her”.